When we are in pain it's so hard to let go... We feel that we deserve to hold the person responsible accountable for the pain that they have caused us! Yes, our souls will want that but there is a more excellent way! Forgiveness, when we forgive we do not acknowledge what the other person did was right, we just allow God to make it right. Its a process and a daily decision to let go of the pain and embrace Love. But how can we love someone that has caused us pain?
💓We must love ourselves first because holding unto offense and unforgiveness will hinder us and imprison us rather than making it free. It's important that we process the pain we must cry if we need to, speak about it if we can and take it before the Lord Daily. Forgiveness is a decision but mending the wound is a process. We must heal the wound!
💓We must remember that we love the person that caused the offense or pain. This is really hard because we might be so hurt that we can't see beyond the pain and sorrow, but we must ask God to show us the Good in the person we used to love. It's hard but we must pray for this person and ask the Lord to bless them. As we do, our heart will grieve the relationship but will also let go of the pain to embrace the new!
💓We must process the pain before God to allow him to make it right and seek reconciliation and restoration. Reconciliation does not necessarily mean we will go back to the old ways. It rather means that we accept what happened and we attempt to establish a new way to relate to each other seeking to restore what was lost in a new way!
💓We must also acknowledge that there are two truths/points of view and one supreme truth, God's truth. I recently went through an experience in which an offense and confusion were created by assumptions created by a text. Yes, I know! This was pretty bad and we were all at fault. When I finally reached out to clarify it was a big mess that put us on a different path than we expected. As I tried to reconcile what happened God showed me very clearly that there were two truths or points of view about the situation but only one supreme truth -His! His truth is what we need to move forward not ours! As long as you root yourself in that truth you will be fine! You don't need to understand it all or have the complete picture you just need to trust Him to make it right!
No matter what you are dealing with today! Just remember to Let Go and allow God to heal you and make it right. As you let go you will grow and as you move forward you will see little by little how everything falls in place!
Want to dig deeper? Here are some bible verses that will help you!
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32, NASB)
For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. (Matthew 6:14, NASB)
But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. (Matthew 6:15, NASB)
Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. (Colossians 3:13, NASB)
Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions. (Mark 11:35, NASB)
Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. (Luke 17:3, NASB)
And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.” (Luke 17:4, NASB